Friends are wonderful things. They are there for you when you need them. They have your back when you do something stupid whether it’s by bailing you out or doing it with you. The only thing that could make friends better is sex. (Let’s be honest, that makes everything better.) Luckily for you, you can have both. If you play your cards right, you can have a friend with benefits – a buddy that you fuck. Now this is a little different than casual dating in that you don’t have to go on dates. You don’t really do anything other than add sex to the equation. You still do all of the things you used to or that you would do with a friend but you get the added bonus of getting off.
Breaking Down the Reasons
To start with, dating is expensive. Even if you’re just doing it causally, you’re usually expected to go do things like go out to eat or go to the movies. Depending on the women you’re seeing, you might have to pay for all of the date, which can really add up. With a friend, you can play games on your couch or go to a bar and worry only about your tab. (Plus, in this bar scenario, you can try to hook up with another girl and, should that fail, you basically have a backup.)
The reason we tend to go on dates is to impress the girl we’re seeing. With a friend, you don’t need to impress them. They’ve probably seen you at your worst so there’s no need to pretend to be anything you’re not. Unlike a girl you might be casually seeing, you can introduce a friend with benefits to your group, if she doesn’t already know them. If you introduce a date to your friends, you might unintentionally be taking things to a more serious level. If she’s just a friend, it’s not weird to introduce her to the other people you hang out with.
So what if you don’t have a friend that you want to get busy with who feels the same way about you? You can get one. You can always make new friends, so why not make one with the intention of introducing benefits at some point. All you need is a woman who doesn’t want a relationship that you have chemistry with. Finding her might take a little effort, but it can be done. You can look for a friend of a friend, try your local watering hole, or try an online dating site. There are usually plenty of women on those sites that just want a little attention but can’t commit to much more. You might also want to ask your buddies if their girlfriends have anyone they might be able to introduce you to. Girls are usually dying to hook their single friends up, but maybe her single friend just needs to get laid and doesn’t have time for a boyfriend? That seems like something you can help her with, doesn’t it?