Connecting with a woman at first can be hard. No matter where you first meet her, you have to find a way to make that first impression that draws her in. It can be your online profile picture, the bar scene, or even through a mutual acquaintance. The point is, you have to know how to use the most powerful forms of communication to attract her, and one of those is your eyes.

Eyes are one of the features that most people pick as a favorite. Whether they’re describing themselves, or what they desire in others, the eyes are usually favored. There’s the expression “bedroom eyes,” and it exists for a reason. You can use your eyes to seduce a woman with just a glance, but it takes finesse and skill. Not to worry, though, because we believe every man has it in him to do it. Here are some tips about how to seduce with only your eyes. It sure saves money if you don’t have to buy her a drink!

The Art of the Glance, and Not Staring

“Exchange short glances and give her a smile”

Women like attention, but they don’t like being stalked. It’s a fine line that only age and experience can help you understand. You either try too hard to impress a woman you’re attracted to, or you act too distant and she thinks you’re not interested. Sometimes it’s like you can’t win, but you definitely can by just knowing the right steps to take.

Take the example of a bar. If you see a hot lady down a few seats, you’re already in the perfect position to engage her. The key here is to catch her eye, and then look away. Don’t maintain eye contact, because it comes off as aggressive. Take note of her reaction. If she seems intrigued, that’s a good sign. If she makes a face or rolls her eyes, move on. However, if you get a promising response, go ahead and wait a few minutes. Look at your phone, watch whatever is on the TV behind the bar, or just stare into your drink. Then, after giving it some time, look at her again. If she looks back, smile. Don’t just stare at her. Again, if you smile, then it’s inviting. If you just stare, she’s going to think you’re a creep or crazy. Once she returns the smile, you can go up and talk to her.

The Sympathy Vote

“Act as if something entered your eye and you need help”

This one is easy. Women love taking care of their man, and you can tap into their nurturing nature in order to get a date. Pretend you have something in your eye and act distressed. This can be a great tactic at somewhere more low key than a club, like a friend’s house party or a quiet bar. Make a really big deal out of how you got something in your eye, and ask the bartender for eye drops. The important thing is to make sure you make this scene in front of the woman whose attention you’re trying to attract.