First Contact

The biggest mistake that most men make on NSA websites is that they stress over the profile picture and just fire off any random message. The first email you send is actually the most important part of the process. If you don’t nail this, you’re just not going to get the date. It’s as simple as that.

Remember to be direct.

You’re not going to get anywhere beating around the bush. These women are here for fast sex, and they’re here to meet men that want the same thing they do. They’re not going to waste time by trying to make blokes feel good, or encourage them to come out of their shells.

The biggest thing you have to keep in mind is that you want to go after what you’re looking for. Make sure she knows what that is. If it’s a short fling, great. If it’s a one night stand, great. You have to make sure that the first booty call email says what you’re looking for, or you run no chance of getting it.

Keep it short and simple.

Focus on what you like about this woman, rather than talking about yourself. Remember, confidence is key. Talk about something you like about her, but don’t be vulgar. Don’t talk about breasts, ass, or even more intimate parts of her body in that first email. Not mentioning them will set you apart from the pack of blokes emailing her.

If your email is over 1000 words, you might as well just write it as a letter to your sad lonely future self. No woman wants to read a message that long from a man she’s just meeting for the first time. It’s strange, it’s not helpful to you, and it’s going to turn her off.

Make it known that you know how to please her.

These women are as much hunters as you are. They’re looking for men that fulfill their specific fantasies. They don’t want to waste time by going out with men that don’t know what they’re doing. Your first email for a one night stand should be enough for her to realize that you want to take care of her, and that you’re going to show her a good time.

Get the “women want bad boys” idea out of your head.

Women want men that make them feel a certain way, and it’s different for every woman. What women don’t want on this site is a man that’s going to take advantage of them and leave them immediately.

Offer to take her somewhere exciting and expensive.

We’re sorry about your credit card bill, but this really does work, and it’s cheaper than buying a prostitute. Offer to take this woman to a nice restaurant or an expensive hotel bar, and meet up with her there.

Yes, this is more expensive than you were hoping a casual, no-strings-attached date would be. However, consider the fact that you only have to do this once, instead of every time if you were with a woman long-term. This way, she’s already impressed.

And if she starts looking for or expecting it by the second date, just say something like, “I was thinking of something low-key.” That way, you look like you’re just being sensible, not broke. Better yet, if she argues with that, she knows that she’ll look like she’s only out to get your money, not to actually have a good time with you. Most women will want to avoid this at all costs, which saves you money.