The goal of all of this planning, including the profile, the picture, the flattery, the messages, is the payoff. You’re finally in with a woman, and you’re ready to have a one-night stand. Are you ready?
It’s important to focus on talking to your partner, and finding out what she wants to do. Yes, we’re talking about what she wants to do for playtime. You should be very ready to put together a bag or some other bundle of items that you might need for the night ahead. You should have condoms, lubricant, and whatever else you’ve talked about already packed.
You’ll also probably want to take a change of clothing. You never know what could happen, and you want to be prepared for anything. There’s also the fact that you want to make sure you can leave quickly at any time without performing the walk of shame.
Talk to your partner.
Make sure that the woman you’re planning to meet has very clear goals, expectations, and boundaries. This is especially important for casual and one night stand dating, since many women who are into this scene like to get pretty freaky.
If you are planning on being kinky with a partner, or even just a little experimental, make sure that you’re both ready for anything that could entail. You want to have the best night of your lives. You don’t want to have to stop because neither of you were planning ahead.
Safety comes first.
There are several different kinds of safety to address when you’re preparing your one night stand strategy. First you want to make sure that you’re meeting a woman who won’t slit your throat and leave you somewhere in an alleyway without your wallet.
Second, you want to make sure you’re both ready to be protected. That means a condom at all times. There’s a time and a place for negotiated safety (agreeing not to use condoms because you’re both clean and/or sterile), but the first date with a relative stranger is not it.
Third, you want to make sure that you’re on the same page as far as kinky safety. If you’re going to do anything involving consent play or bondage, make sure you have a safe word. If you’re going to do anything with ropes or any amount of pain, make sure you know how to undo this at a moment’s notice in case of any issue, danger, or discomfort.
As long as you keep to those three tenants, you should be at least reasonably safe with this woman. Don’t shirk any of them; if you do, you could wind up making a huge mistake that you’ll be paying for in years to come.
Make sure you don’t need any other equipment.
One of the most disappointing things that can happen on a one night stand is if someone forgets to bring a certain kind of equipment that you might need. For example, if you discussed using sex toys and you forget one, even if you didn’t say concretely that you wanted to use it, there’s an element of disappointment there.
As long as you’re packed and ready, you should be ready to go. You have your clothes, you have your stuff for safety, and you have any other things you might need to bring out.
Slap on your aftershave (avoid body spray), and get to the hotel or restaurant where you’re meeting. Have the time of your life!